– these are of course all subjective perceptions and can be dealt with and removed relatively easily.
In this series of short blogs, I’ll explain a little about why and how these issues manifest and give some simple tips to get around them.
The Fear of Ridicule
This is really common. The best way to avoid being ridiculed for your creative output is not to generate anything at all. Our unconscious minds protect us from harm by inventing loads of ways for us to avoid being ridiculed.
Signs that this is happening in your life are:
Being a busy fool
Loads of half written manuscripts, unfinished sketches or musical samples
A classic trigger for this might be a teacher marking down an essay you wrote at school or you forgetting your lines in a school play. I did this in a nativity play and got demoted from Jesus to an innkeeper and then from an innkeeper to an angel without wings on the back row of the chorus.
As a knock on result, I used to have a repetitive dream of freezing as the lead guitarist on stage when playing with Pink Floyd or The Who. Since I eventually played a solo classic guitar piece at a local arts centre, the dream has not returned. When I released the audio version of my first book, I allowed that classical guitarist to come out to play.
One of the best things about being an author is getting to talk to other authors – especially those writing in a similar field to you.
One of the writers I have admired for many years who has been really generous with reviews of my books is Steve Taylor.
Even more of a coincidence is that we’re both Manchester lads exploring consciousness and what it means to be human.
So I was thrilled to speak to Steve recently for my Moments of Light show on Barefoot Radio about his new book, Out of Darkness. Naturally, we covered the others too … namely The Fall, Making Time and Waking from Sleep.
Many of us go through life feeling we have much to offer but we somehow miss the mark. Our brilliance is not appreciated – our just rewards don’t seem to come our way.
Lucy Whittington has found her ‘thing’ and that’s to help others find theirs. I know how well what she does works as she nudged me up the ladder by quite a few notches in my thinking last year. My sights are not only much higher and my feeling of self-worth stronger but I am also much more confident and focused than ever nowadays.
Listen to my latest Moments of Light show on the Barefoot Broadcast to hear how you too can go about ‘finding your thing’ and fulfilling your destiny delivering what you were born to do.
If you thought Twitter was a fad or a nuisance, let me disavow you of that notion – it is a pretty useful tool for both business and pleasure and it’s here to stay.
For one, I have had direct business solely from Tweets and found the most perfect iPhone app developer from a single Tweet – I think you will agree, that is a pretty useful use of a few seconds of my time.
By osmosis, I’ve learned how to make Twitter work for me and how not to get addicted to it. You would think there’s not too much to it – it’s only 140 characters after all – how hard can that be?
My old guitar teacher told me, “It’s not the notes but the gaps in between.”
Well my world has just been turned upside down and exploded this week after I downloaded the iPhone app version of 140 Characters: a Style Guide for the Short Form by Dom Sagolla – one of Twitter’s progenitors.
I was glued and read it in one sitting.
Not only is the book one of the best manuals you will ever find for using Twitter properly but Dom is one erudite and intelligent chap. His understanding of human language, semantics and communication is outstanding.
I so wish I will be able to write a book as intelligent as this one day.
The iPhone app version of the book is pretty neat as it is embedded with rich hypertext to take you right to the resource, people and example tweets that Dom refers to. You can even interact with the content which incidentally is updated regularly too.
The book is full of brilliant humour (or is that humor) too of how to and how not to Tweet. There are some real corkers and my Tweet stream might become a whole lot more interesting as a result of reading it.
Dom is one Twitter expert who really does know his stuff – he was there from the ground up and user number #009. Once you read this book you will be able to spot the real gurus from the fakes, also rans and wannabees.
His vocabulary is also amazing and I was reaching for my dictionary app more than once.
If you still don’t want to read the book, here’s a quote from the book to summarise its essence.
“Do fewer things better”
The book is a snip at only $4.99 for the iPhone but well worth the $12 or so if you want the print version.
As a result of reading it, I for one am now not hanging about on my next book – it’s going to come out this year – in print and as an iPhone app in this form as I am inspired now more than ever to do fewer things even better ….
I am really thrilled to have had a new logo designed by Jackie Newman of BooDesign.
The brief was to create something simple and elegant that I could use on the web, in pop up banners that summarised both what I do and what I write about.
At the same time, I took a much overdue step and renamed my company which was called Shere Solutions to Tmesis Ltd.
Shere Solutions was formed in 1996 to deliver IT and business consultancy and was not really relevant to the work I do now.
Tmesis incidentally is the only word in the English language that begins with “T” and “M” and means to put a word inside another word like “abso-blooming-lutely”.
I chose Jackie for the brief as I specifically wanted two things over and above her talent as a design – namely objectivity and elegance.
I am so pleased with the result and something very subtle that came from it … including the company banner for letterheads etc.
The main banner of “tomevans” is perhaps obvious …
… in the strapline of ‘whole brain thinking’ combined with ‘whole mind connection’, Jackie unconsciously embedded a whole stream of multiple ‘tmeses’ – OK maybe there are two words that begin with “T” and “M” if you count the plural 😉
So what we have embedded in the logo is also …
‘Brain Thinking Whole’
‘Thinking Whole Mind’
‘Connection Whole Brain’
… and another friend of mine also pointed out that Tmesis is also short for “tom he is”